Just for fun, here are Teddy & Holden’s current most favorite things:
1. Climbing. If they can climb it, they will climb it. That includes chairs, tables, benches, window ledges, etc. Nothing is safe!
2. Going down the stairs forward. They like to hold on to the vertical bars on the railing and “walk” down. I would much prefer if they would go backwards on their bellies like we taught them!
3. Throwing everything. It’s fun to throw balls! Less fun (for mom at dad) to throw food. Also, you have to be careful for a pacifier or other plastic toy being tossed at your face.
4. Dogs. If we see a dog while we’re out, and we get to pet the dog and let it lick us, then the twins are in HEAVEN. Holden also would like you to read his Doggies book to him 58 times in a row. Woof! (P.S. I’m sorry children, but we are never getting a dog.)
5. Shoes. Holden likes to get your shoes from the other room, bring them to you, and try to put them on your feet. I also bought them some new shoes that have rubber bottoms (different from their soft-soled ones) and they love to clomp around in them.
6. Medicine Bottles. Since both boys are on antibiotics right now (stupid ear infections), they’ve been getting a lot of doses of drugs. They love to play with the syringes and bottles and pretend to give medicine. (I’d say this was weird, but I wanted braces when I was a kid, so…)
7. Belly buttons. Don’t be alarmed if the boys want you to lift up your shirt. I swear, they’re just looking for your belly button. They are also very happy to show theirs off.
By this time next month, I truly hope that their favorite things include: sleeping past 5:30 am, flying on airplanes like sweet, docile angels, swimming in the pool, getting 100% of food served to them into their mouths, and learning to blow their own noses.
Oh, poor, neglected blog. Hello!
We are now pretty settled here in Denver so I am posting a quick update on the state of things. Don’t expect anything too exciting though. : )
Caring for the boys (who deserve a full post of their own, because they are an amazing combination of crazy+hilarious+lovable right now) still takes up the majority of my time. We start our day at about 6 every morning, and I’m with them until Andrew wraps up his work day around 5:30. Then it’s a 90 minute flurry of dinner, cleaning, baths, pjs, reading, and cuddling before the boys are in their cribs at 7. By then I’m pretty much a complete zombie and ready for bed, but usually stay up a few hours to waste some time without children crawling on me.
I’m working about 5 hours per week. Writing that number down makes it seem so small it’s hardly worth mentioning! Most people work that much in one day before lunch, I know. And yet, it takes me all week to cobble together 30 minutes here and 1 hour there to add up to 5. I also have a babysitter who comes about 6 hours per week and between her and my mom (who has the boys for a half day per week) I am able to maintain my sanity.
I’d like to increase my hours to more like 15-20/week, and I’m working on doing that with my current consulting situation. I’m also open to new things that come my way, but I’m not actively applying for jobs (at least yet). I’m not ready to give up the freedom and flexibility that consulting is giving me right now. (As for what I’m doing, it’s very similar to my last job, but for a different organization. I’m working on environmental issues like climate change, which is very cool.)
We try to get out of the house at least one time each day. To the park, the library, a museum, or even to Costco. Thankfully our snowy days have been interspersed with warm sunshiny days so we’ve actually run around outside quite a bit. Running away from me and toward the street is a new favorite hobby for the twins. Cue several heart attacks.
My sister also works part-time so we have a lot of play dates with her boys and my boys. Sometimes my mom or dad joins us. It’s kind of like we live on one big family compound, which is pretty awesome.
I’ve been trying to take care of myself a little bit more. I went to the gym 7 whole times this month! Again, that number seems so miniscule. But honestly I probably didn’t work out 7 times in all of 2013, so this is major progress. I joined a gym and have been taking hour-long classes (yoga, cardio lifting, barre, etc).
After staying put for a few months (I swore off travel after our last trip), I have obviously forgotten about the joys of flying with small creatures and booked us several upcoming trips! First I’m sneaking off to San Francisco for a weekend without kiddos with my DC-BFF (now my CA-BFF?). Then the whole family is headed to Cabo where I will drink all the margaritas. And then we are doing another Delaware/DC trip for 10 days. And then I will swear off travel for another 6 months until we do it all over again.
We definitely miss our friends and family out East, but life is pretty good here. We love our house. I can’t wait for a Colorado summer. I have plans for happy hours on our front porch, meeting more neighbors, outdoor concerts, going to the pool, and trying new restaurants.
Side note: I’m definitely open to blogging more, though I’m feeling a bit of the whole “blogging is dead” theme. Is there anything you guys would like me to write more about? I feel like I do most of my online hanging out over on Twitter these days, so if we aren’t connected there, let’s do that.
What’s new in YOUR lives, my old friends?
Here’s a picture from today just for fun.
I’m using the questions revised by RA for my look back at 2013.
1. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 32 this year, and a couple of friends joined me & the boys for an outdoor concert and picnic at Yards Park. I miss that park and those friends.
2. What are your strongest memories from this year, and why?
My memories this year are mostly about the twins growing and changing. I think about my babies turning into toddlers, about breastfeeding, and about moving from DC to Denver and getting settled into this new life.
3. What did you do this year that you’d never done before?
Sold a house (which went very well, phew). Flew on an airplane with two babies FIVE times.
4. What did you want and get?
Last year I wrote: “I’m scared to say this one out loud, because I’m not 100% set on it (nor is my spouse), but what I would like to have in 2013 to move to Denver to be closer to my family.” At the time I really felt it was a longshot, but here we are.
5. What did you want and not get?
I feel very grateful that I got most everything I wanted this year.
6. What would you like to have next year that you didn’t have this year?
A job that really excites me (part-time, I hope). This feels like my big challenge for 2014. I’m trying to find my way in a new city with fewer professional opportunities in my field while juggling mothering toddlers.
7. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
For 2013 my goals were to:
- Keep blogging. I blogged as a way to keep track of the babies, but I completely plummeted on writing about me, my feelings, etc. Part of this was situational — I was tired and busy too often, but partly I just feel more private these days.
- Learn Lightroom and take and edit good photos. I feel decent about my Lightroom skills right now so I’ll count this as a yes. Bonus was that I learned iMovie.
- Go on lots of walks with the kiddos and get my body to a better, fitter place. Also, find time to do something healthy for myself without the boys. Perhaps yoga again? I did do lots of walks but my body is nowhere near where I’d like it to me. Hello, 2014!
- Keep breastfeeding as long as I can. Yep, I did this (pumping until 9 months). No regrets or bad feelings about this except that it did not lead to magical weight loss.
- Embrace my new life as a stay at home mom. And when it’s time to go back to work, embrace that as well. I think I did the first part of this well, and now I need to do the second part. And I’m nervous as hell, but I think it’s the right thing to do.
- Do more nice things for other people. I feel like I’ve been on the receiving end for awhile now and it’s time to pay it forward. I was hit or miss on this. I’d like to keep it a focus once again for the year ahead.
My 2014 goals/resolutions are:
- No seriously, lose some weight. It’s cliché to say that at the start of a new year, but this is the first year in many where I haven’t been TTC, pregnant, or breastfeeding. No more excuses (but also no negative self talk — I’m proud of what my body did over the past few years. It’s just time to shift the focus.)
- Get a job. See above.
- Make another photo/video montage of the boys.
- Go on two weekend getaways without the boys. First up is the Bay Area, hopefully in the next month or two, and I’m SUPER excited about the idea.
- Be better about calling my friends on the phone and maintaining long-distance friendships.
- Invest in making new friends here in Denver.
- Make sangria and invite people over to drink it.
8. What was your biggest achievement of this year?
It’s funny because breastfeeding pretty much consumed my life from January through July. And now that I’m beyond it, I spend almost zero time thinking about it anymore. But it probably was one of my biggest accomplishments. I also feel good that our family managed a cross-country move (including a stint in a rental house in between houses) and didn’t go nuts.
9. What was your biggest failure?
Sleep deprivation makes me quite crabby, and I was often sleep-deprived, so I was often crabby.
10. What did you rely on when you were overwhelmed?
Food (ugh), my parents (for babysitting/giving us a break), twitter (for friendships, advice, and old-fashioned time-wasting).
11. What are your strongest recommendations for entertainment from this year? (books, television, movies, music, etc)
I barely consumed any media this year, thanks to my self-diagnosed post-partum ADD. Now that I am getting a full night of sleep more consistently, I can feel my attention span coming back! Sleep deprivation is seriously weird. I guess I shall look forward to re-discovering reading books in 2014?
12. What song will remind you of this year?
The Sara Bareilles “Brave” song seems to have been everywhere this year. The song I used in the twins’ first year video will definitely be seared into my brain as well.
13. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year (not necessarily from the song that reminds you of the year).
Normally I like this question but I’m totally coming up blank right now.
14. What was your most enjoyable purchase?
Oh, definitely our new house! I’ve been craigslisting most of the furniture for it, but we did splurge on one really awesome sofa, and I LOVE our new king bed/bedding.
15. Did you travel? If so, where?
In March/April we brought the boys to Denver for three weeks (while we visited family and scoped out the city for a possible move), in April we went to NYC for a long weekend, and in May we took a family road trip to Isle of Palms, SC. In November we did a 10-day trip back east to Delaware and DC. We spent Thanksgiving (and a few other weekends) up in the mountains here. I think we did pretty well considering we had two babies along for the ride!
16. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Sleep! Not that I had much control over it. I’ll say what I say every year, which is exercise.
17. What do you wish you’d done less of?
Stuffing my face with cookies.
18. Compared to this time last year, how are you different?
Last year I was in the thrilled-yet-exhausted, all-consuming newborn phase. This year, I feel settled into motherhood, ready for balance in my life, and just in general more stable after a lot of big life changes over the past few years.
I also find myself more cynical about some things, and I’m not sure I like the negativity that comes with it. This is something I haven’t written about (probably because I’m uncomfortable with it), but nevertheless it is here now and it wasn’t here before.
19. Compared to this time last year, how are you the same?
On the happy/fat/rich scale: I weigh the same, have about the same amount of money, and am similarly happy. I still feel very loved and supported by friends and family, even though it has been hard on some relationships because we moved so far away. I feel like being a mom is a good fit for me and I feel grateful to have Teddy & Holden. I love them a ridiculous amount.
20. What’s a life lesson you learned this year?
Life is much more complicated than what you see or read on the internet.
It’s true when people say that parenting keeps getting better as babies grow older. (And this is coming from someone who LOVES wee babies.)
If you filled out one of these, please link to it in the comments so I can come read! Thank you for yet another year of friendship.