January 5, 2014 · filed under life

2013: the year of the move

I’m using the questions revised by RA for my look back at 2013.

Previously: 201220112010

1. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

I turned 32 this year, and a couple of friends joined me & the boys for an outdoor concert and picnic at Yards Park. I miss that park and those friends.

2. What are your strongest memories from this year, and why?

My memories this year are mostly about the twins growing and changing. I think about my babies turning into toddlers, about breastfeeding, and about moving from DC to Denver and getting settled into this new life.

3. What did you do this year that you’d never done before?

Sold a house (which went very well, phew). Flew on an airplane with two babies FIVE times.

4. What did you want and get?

Last year I wrote: “I’m scared to say this one out loud, because I’m not 100% set on it (nor is my spouse), but what I would like to have in 2013 to move to Denver to be closer to my family.” At the time I really felt it was a longshot, but here we are.

5. What did you want and not get?

I feel very grateful that I got most everything I wanted this year.

6. What would you like to have next year that you didn’t have this year?

A job that really excites me (part-time, I hope). This feels like my big challenge for 2014. I’m trying to find my way in a new city with fewer professional opportunities in my field while juggling mothering toddlers.

7. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

For 2013 my goals were to:

  • Keep blogging. I blogged as a way to keep track of the babies, but I completely plummeted on writing about me, my feelings, etc. Part of this was situational — I was tired and busy too often, but partly I just feel more private these days.
  • Learn Lightroom and take and edit good photos. I feel decent about my Lightroom skills right now so I’ll count this as a yes. Bonus was that I learned iMovie.
  • Go on lots of walks with the kiddos and get my body to a better, fitter place. Also, find time to do something healthy for myself without the boys. Perhaps yoga again? I did do lots of walks but my body is nowhere near where I’d like it to me. Hello, 2014!
  • Keep breastfeeding as long as I can. Yep, I did this (pumping until 9 months). No regrets or bad feelings about this except that it did not lead to magical weight loss.
  • Embrace my new life as a stay at home mom. And when it’s time to go back to work, embrace that as well. I think I did the first part of this well, and now I need to do the second part. And I’m nervous as hell, but I think it’s the right thing to do.
  • Do more nice things for other people. I feel like I’ve been on the receiving end for awhile now and it’s time to pay it forward. I was hit or miss on this. I’d like to keep it a focus once again for the year ahead.

My 2014 goals/resolutions are:

  • No seriously, lose some weight. It’s cliché to say that at the start of a new year, but this is the first year in many where I haven’t been TTC, pregnant, or breastfeeding. No more excuses (but also no negative self talk — I’m proud of what my body did over the past few years. It’s just time to shift the focus.)
  • Get a job. See above.
  • Make another photo/video montage of the boys.
  • Go on two weekend getaways without the boys. First up is the Bay Area, hopefully in the next month or two, and I’m SUPER excited about the idea.
  • Be better about calling my friends on the phone and maintaining long-distance friendships.
  • Invest in making new friends here in Denver.
  • Make sangria and invite people over to drink it.

8. What was your biggest achievement of this year?

It’s funny because breastfeeding pretty much consumed my life from January through July. And now that I’m beyond it, I spend almost zero time thinking about it anymore. But it probably was one of my biggest accomplishments. I also feel good that our family managed a cross-country move (including a stint in a rental house in between houses) and didn’t go nuts.

9. What was your biggest failure?

Sleep deprivation makes me quite crabby, and I was often sleep-deprived, so I was often crabby.

10. What did you rely on when you were overwhelmed?

Food (ugh), my parents (for babysitting/giving us a break), twitter (for friendships, advice, and old-fashioned time-wasting).

11. What are your strongest recommendations for entertainment from this year? (books, television, movies, music, etc)

I barely consumed any media this year, thanks to my self-diagnosed post-partum ADD. Now that I am getting a full night of sleep more consistently, I can feel my attention span coming back! Sleep deprivation is seriously weird. I guess I shall look forward to re-discovering reading books in 2014?

12. What song will remind you of this year?

The Sara Bareilles “Brave” song seems to have been everywhere this year. The song I used in the twins’ first year video will definitely be seared into my brain as well.

13. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year (not necessarily from the song that reminds you of the year).

Normally I like this question but I’m totally coming up blank right now.

14. What was your most enjoyable purchase?

Oh, definitely our new house! I’ve been craigslisting most of the furniture for it, but we did splurge on one really awesome sofa, and I LOVE our new king bed/bedding.

15. Did you travel? If so, where?

In March/April we brought the boys to Denver for three weeks (while we visited family and scoped out the city for a possible move), in April we went to NYC for a long weekend, and in May we took a family road trip to Isle of Palms, SC. In November we did a 10-day trip back east to Delaware and DC. We spent Thanksgiving (and a few other weekends) up in the mountains here. I think we did pretty well considering we had two babies along for the ride!

16. What do you wish you’d done more of?

Sleep! Not that I had much control over it. I’ll say what I say every year, which is exercise.

17. What do you wish you’d done less of?

Stuffing my face with cookies.

18. Compared to this time last year, how are you different?

Last year I was in the thrilled-yet-exhausted, all-consuming newborn phase. This year, I feel settled into motherhood, ready for balance in my life, and just in general more stable after a lot of big life changes over the past few years.

I also find myself more cynical about some things, and I’m not sure I like the negativity that comes with it. This is something I haven’t written about (probably because I’m uncomfortable with it), but nevertheless it is here now and it wasn’t here before.

19. Compared to this time last year, how are you the same?

On the happy/fat/rich scale: I weigh the same, have about the same amount of money, and am similarly happy. I still feel very loved and supported by friends and family, even though it has been hard on some relationships because we moved so far away. I feel like being a mom is a good fit for me and I feel grateful to have Teddy & Holden. I love them a ridiculous amount.

20. What’s a life lesson you learned this year?

Life is much more complicated than what you see or read on the internet.

It’s true when people say that parenting keeps getting better as babies grow older. (And this is coming from someone who LOVES wee babies.)

If you filled out one of these, please link to it in the comments so I can come read! Thank you for yet another year of friendship.


13 Comments

  1. Janet
    January 6, 2014 12:39 am

    Bay Area! Yay! Would love to met up if you have time! (This is the Janet formerly known as pretty green girl). :) Happy New Year!

  2. Aly (@breathegently)
    January 6, 2014 2:19 am

    What a big year you have had! I’d come drink sangria with you if I lived closer. :(

  3. RA
    January 6, 2014 11:32 am

    I love that you set out your intention to move and made it happen! I mean, I still miss you guys, but this is what you wanted, and YOU DID IT. YES.

    Yaaay, new house! Can we get a tour?

    If you want to rediscover books, I am happy to make recommendations. :)

  4. Erika
    January 6, 2014 11:48 am

    “Life is much more complicated than what you see or read on the internet.”

    For real. In personal ways and in the listicle crap that is always on facebook. Hang in there!!

  5. Elaine
    January 6, 2014 2:28 pm

    I like sangria. That is all.

  6. BirdieDorf
    January 6, 2014 2:43 pm

    You paid it forward with me a lot this year! I feel a debt of gratitude. LOVE.

  7. jen
    January 6, 2014 3:54 pm

    If you’re in the Bay Area between feb 6-14…we’ll be there, too!

    do you hope 2014 will be a little boring? i mean, you’ve been living in a whirlwind the last few years. i want to travel and simplify, but also lead a boring life for a bit!

  8. Feisty Harriet
    January 6, 2014 5:46 pm

    Oh man, life and Pinterest do NOT MATCH UP EVER! And, frankly, that’s probably how it is supposed to be. The complicated parts of our lives are rarely the parts we want to (or are able) to splash around the Interwebs.

    2013 has been a huge year for you! Hoping 2014 brings happiness, joy, and sangria!

    xox

  9. Lauren Eberspacher
    January 6, 2014 11:15 pm

    I loved this post and the questions! What a fun way to reflect on the past year! And I too wish I lived close enough to come over for some sangria!

    Here is the link to my questions: http://theeberspachers.blogspot.com/2014/01/reflections-of-2013.html

  10. Alissa S
    January 6, 2014 11:46 pm

    You have had one heck of a year. SO productive. I am also very proud of you for the breastfeeding, raising TWO boys, making a big move, and traveling. I didn’t do any of that – zip. Okay, well I did try to BF and pumped for a few months, but not like you were able to. I hope your year is everything you hope for. I am with you on losing weight. I have already made a dent, but I have a long way to go. We can do it!

  11. Audrey
    January 13, 2014 2:48 pm

    If you make Sangria, I’ll come over to your house and help you drink it (as long as it’s after April 12).

    Good luck on the job front! Transitioning back to work was hard for me at first, but in the long run I know it was the best thing for both me and Alexander. I hope you find something that’s both satisfying and compatible with your home life.

    I finally got around to answering these questions on my blog yesterday.